Texas has one of the largest lifestyle scenes in the country, built around private membership clubs in Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio, most of them BYOB and all of them requiring a membership or application before you reach the door. Every venue, social and monthly party is listed with its policies in the Texas club directory.
How Texas clubs work
Every Texas lifestyle club is a private club. That means an application, usually online, sometimes with a short approval wait; an annual membership fee; and a per-night cover that is higher for single men than for couples or single women. Most on-premise clubs do not hold a liquor license, so they are BYOB: your bottle is checked at the door, labeled, and poured by staff. Dress codes are enforced, and weekend nights are usually reserved for couples and single women.
Lifestyle clubs are lawful in Texas; the fights that make the news are zoning disputes between a club and a suburb, not criminal cases. The practical effect is that clubs sit in industrial or commercial districts and look like nothing from the outside. Read the listing for the address and the parking before you go.
Colette: the club group that defines the state
Colette has run private lifestyle clubs since 1997 and now operates in Dallas, Houston, Austin and San Antonio, with a fifth club in New Orleans. One membership, taken by application at any of the clubs, works at all of them. The Dallas club (10821 Composite Drive) is the flagship: an upscale lounge with a dance floor, private rooms and a movie room, no alcohol served but BYOB welcome, with a midweek newbie night where the membership fee is waived for first-timers. The San Antonio club is the newest, created in 2025 when Colette bought the long-running Texas Players Club there and began rebranding it. Policies and nights differ between the cities, so check the listing for the club you plan to visit.
Houston
Houston has the most clubs and the largest crowd. Lifestyle app data has ranked it among the top three U.S. cities for swingers, and the scene supports several on-premise venues at once, from Colette Houston to couples-focused BYOB clubs that market themselves as newbie-friendly. Weekend nights are couples-heavy and sell out around holidays. The Houston member pages and the city's groups are where members compare which club has the better Friday.
Dallas and Fort Worth
Dallas is the upscale end of the Texas scene: dress codes are strictest here, and Colette Dallas has been the reference club for two decades. Fort Worth and the suburbs run on off-premise socials and monthly hotel parties rather than fixed venues. Members in the metro are listed under Dallas and Fort Worth.
Austin
Austin's scene is smaller and more private than its reputation suggests. For years its clubs were off-premise only and the real action was in house parties, and that culture persists even though Colette now has an on-premise club in the city. Expect vetted private parties listed under parties, a strong monthly social, and a crowd that skews younger than Houston or Dallas. The Austin member pages are the way into the house-party circuit, which usually needs an introduction from a couple who already attends.
San Antonio
San Antonio has long had a single large on-premise club, the former Texas Players Club with its dance floor, private cabanas and theme rooms, now part of Colette. The same app data that ranks Houston third puts San Antonio in the national top ten for swingers, which surprises people who have not been. Members are on the San Antonio member pages.
What a Texas night costs
- Membership: annual, paid once, by application. Some clubs waive it on a newbie night.
- Cover: per night, higher on Saturdays and for single men, sometimes lower on theme nights.
- Alcohol: your own bottle, checked in and served by staff, plus tips.
- Lockers, towels, condoms: provided, sometimes for a small locker fee.
Exact figures are on each club's listing and change often enough that any number printed here would be wrong within a year.
Socials and takeovers
Every Texas metro has at least one organization that runs a monthly meet-and-greet at an ordinary bar, and these are where most couples meet their first play partners. They are listed under organizations. Texas also hosts hotel takeovers through the year, usually in Houston or Dallas, which the events calendar carries and the takeover guide explains.
Before you go
Apply for membership online a few days before you want to go, because approval is not always instant. Decide your rules as a couple, read the etiquette guide, and pick a newbie night for a first visit if the club has one. Then find a couple on the Texas member pages who are already regulars there; in a state this size, the quickest way to feel at home in a club is to walk in with someone who already is.