Guides
Practical guides from the True Swingers team: first visits, etiquette, where to go and how the community works.
Etiquette
- First swinger house party: invitations, vetting and house rules
How lifestyle house parties and socials work: getting invited, the vetting hosts do, what to bring, house rules, and how a home party differs from a club.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- How to host a swinger party: guests, rules, supplies and the law
How experienced hosts run a lifestyle house party: vetting guests, house rules, supplies, play rooms, alcohol, cleanup and the legal lines at home.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger club etiquette: the rules regulars expect you to know
Asking, hearing no, staying a couple, hygiene, playroom rules, phones, drinking, tipping and the things that get members banned from lifestyle clubs.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Clubs
- Your first time at a swinger club: what actually happens
What a lifestyle club looks like inside, what the dress code and fees mean, how to say no, and how couples who go every month handle their first night.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Australia: Sydney, Melbourne, Perth and the rules
Australia's swinger clubs in Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Perth and Adelaide, how the nights run, what state rules require, and how to find a club.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in California: LA, San Diego, Bay Area and Sacramento
California's lifestyle scene: members-only clubs in Los Angeles, San Diego and San Francisco, LA's house-party culture, desert resorts and how to get invited.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Canada: Toronto, Montreal, Calgary and the law
Canada's swinger clubs in Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver and Calgary, what they cost, single-male rules, and how the 2005 Labaye ruling made them legal.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Florida: Tampa, Orlando, Miami and Fort Lauderdale
Florida's lifestyle scene by city: the on-premise clubs in Tampa, Fort Lauderdale, Miami and Kissimmee, how BYOB and membership work, and the takeovers.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Germany and Europe: how the scene really works
How German Swingerclubs work, what couples and single men pay, the Dutch, Belgian, French and Spanish scenes, and what Cap d'Agde is really like.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Ohio and the Midwest: Columbus, Cleveland, Indy
Ohio's on-premise clubs in Columbus, Cleveland and Cincinnati, plus Indiana, Michigan, Illinois and Wisconsin, and how Midwest BYOB membership clubs work.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in Texas: Houston, Dallas, Austin and San Antonio
Texas lifestyle clubs by city: the Colette group, Houston's BYOB on-premise venues, Austin's house-party scene, and how membership by application works.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger clubs in the UK: cities, costs, membership and the law
How UK swinger clubs are licensed, what membership and entry cost, where the scenes are in London, the North, the Midlands and Essex, and how to start.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Travel
- Hotel takeovers explained: how lifestyle hotel weekends work
What a swinger hotel takeover is, how organizers rent a whole hotel, wristbands, themed nights, costs, Naughty in N'awlins, and how to find the next one.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger cruises and hotel takeovers: Bliss, Temptation and more
How Bliss and Temptation cruises and takeovers like Naughty in N'awlins work: who can book, costs, dress codes, play rooms at sea and getting a cabin in time.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Community
- How to find swingers near you: directory, clubs, events, profile
The member directory by state and city, club and social listings, events and groups, a profile that gets replies, and how to meet a couple safely.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger profile tips that get replies: photos, words and messages
What photos to use and whether to show your face, what to write and what to leave out, how to message a couple, and the no response is a no rule.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Resorts
- Lifestyle resorts explained: Hedonism II, Desire, Caliente and more
What a lifestyle resort is and is not: nudity rules, couples-only policies, costs and booking windows at Hedonism II, Desire, Temptation and Caliente.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Data
- The State of the Lifestyle 2026: the most swinger-friendly US states
All 50 states and DC ranked by lifestyle members per 100,000 residents and swinger clubs and socials per million. Tennessee, Nevada and Arizona lead for 2026.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Basics
- Safer sex in the lifestyle: condoms, testing, PrEP and doxy PEP
A plain public-health guide for swingers: condoms, how often to test, what the CDC says about PrEP and doxy PEP, talking about status, and alcohol.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Single men in the lifestyle: the honest guide to being welcome
Why swinger clubs limit single men, which nights let you in, how to behave, what couples want from a third, and what gets a single man blocked.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Single women and unicorns in the lifestyle: welcome and in charge
Why single women are welcome everywhere in the lifestyle, what unicorn means and why many dislike it, how to stay safe, and how couples should approach.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Soft swap vs full swap: what the terms mean and how couples choose
Soft swap, full swap, same room, separate room and the rest of the spectrum explained, how couples decide their line and how to say it at a club or online.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinger lifestyle glossary: the terms on profiles and at clubs
Plain definitions of the words swingers use: lifestyle, ENM, unicorn, bull, hotwife, stag and vixen, soft and full swap, on-premise, takeover and more.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
Relationships
- Swinging and your relationship: the talk, the rules, the research
How couples raise swinging, set rules, handle jealousy and aftercare, know when to pause, and what research says about non-monogamy and satisfaction.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
- Swinging in your 40s, 50s and beyond: starting late and loving it
Why the lifestyle skews older than people expect, the age mix at clubs and resorts, health and confidence after 40, and how to start late and well.
Updated Oct 21, 2026
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