I touch my wife a lot at the resort (which she actually likes) and sometimes - in the "moment" - I get a surge of affection for her and hold her close to me. My penis doesn't usually touch her body (and I don't think it will...until it does...) and my physical reaction to it is often instantaneous. For my wife it's a visual confirmation that I still get hard for her; so she doesn't mind at all lol! On the other hand if I hug someone at the resort and my penis touches her; I don't have a reaction. It's specific to my wife. My cock has a mind of its own and decides that if it touches my wife; it's time to have sex.
You are right about your cock having a mind of its own. I have experienced that many times. But maybe when you hug a woman other than your wife, your mind subconsciously puts out warning signals not to become aroused because of the embarrassment that might cause.
When you unintentionally became hard when bear hugging your wife at the nudist resort, it was the possibility of getting into trouble that was your greater concern, not the embarrassment of having an erection. If you were to have an erection while hugging a woman who is not your wife, that would be an entirely different matter. Even if there was no risk of getting into trouble, you might be VERY embarrassed, depending upon the circumstances.
Years ago, my wife and I would visit a nudist camp that was very rustic. There was no swimming pool. We would sunbathe on the grass near the pond. I remember when one of the young guys got an erection while quietly sunbathing with his girlfriend. He didn't bother to hide it. No one seemed to care. Similarly, one time I got an erection in front of a female member while I was sunbathing next to my wife. No one else happened to be around. I didn't bother to hide it either. In my case, it was more deliberate than unintentional. I wanted the person to see me erect. I guess that makes me a bit of an exhibitionist. No harm done, I wouldn't have done that if I thought I would get in trouble.
There was an embarrassing incident that wasn't intentional. We were at the rustic nudist camp. I was standing talking with the owner when my wife bent over to get something out of our cooler. The view of her lovely breasts dangling and of her firm little ass was too much for me. I instantly got a full erection. Since I was still standing there talking with the owner, there wasn't anything I could do about it. Of course, my wife spotted my erection right away. I was hoping that the owner wouldn't see it, but he suddenly did. He didn't look too pleased. He didn't say anything though. After he left, my wife asked me, "Is that all it takes?" The answer, of course, was that my cock has a mind of its own. LOL
I was embarrassed, but it could have been worse. My decision at that moment was that there wasn't anything that I could do about it so I might as well just stand there with my erection in full view.



