RE:Asking a lady for sex

To nudist pig. You and I are "friends" on TS as well as TN. Agree ..... certainly respect SHOULD be in the picture and from my experience, as a single Bi (though leans more to gay male), that is what happens most of the time. Just as a reminder though.. respect should go both ways. Ive been in situations where I've been polite and respectful to a woman , had a great conversation, fun flirtiness , bought she and her hubby a drink etc... then.... another dude comes along who's 6'3" and hunky , more muscular etc (or whatever her attraction button happens to be) ...and I get dropped like a hot potato. And its happened the other way to my favor and Ive seen the look of the other guy. Not sure what my point is or if it follows the OP's question (though it doesn't really matter since he hasn't been on here in 4 years. ) Guess I'm just saying that being courteous and being respectful though always a great thing to do doesn't mean its going to play in your favor. Some women will appreciate it ....but some are totally superficial and want the best thing they can get at that moment. Some women like the "bad boys" ... the ones rough around the edges, or the backwards baseball cap, or the 10 tatoos guys .....more than the well polished and polite men.

Bro. She gonna choose who she gonna choose and let's be honest a couple of beverages is not any leverage over outcomes in the meat market. I get you. It's shitty to invest in a potential hookup and have her choose anyone else. But it's visibly what it is to everyone involved. She knows why you bought the drinks. So... in my view offered gifts for potential reward are not the best way to show respect. One, they are strangers. Two, unless you buy drinks and disappear, it's obviously not random kindness (but not rude either). You should have bought the dude the drinks. ;) Joking... Here's the thing. You're not owed anything for social engagement. Bad boy or dapper debonair... sex is always the bigger investment for women because of potential pregnancy making them the deciding party most often. Being a nice guy doesn't always pay off but it's the right thing to do.

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I ALWAYS respect a lady. I would never come right out and ask for sex. If I am as thoughtful as I can be and get lucky fine. If I get shot out of the saddle because of a younger, better body, better looking gentleman, well, congrats to him. I'll still be respectful for that lady. I'll keep my distance of course but, i'd never say anything bad to her, for her choice.

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I ALWAYS respect a lady. I would never come right out and ask for sex. If I am as thoughtful as I can be and get lucky fine. If I get shot out of the saddle because of a younger, better body, better looking gentleman, well, congrats to him. I'll still be respectful for that lady. I'll keep my distance of course but, i'd never say anything bad to her, for her choice.

Not all ladies feel respected by indirect chivalry and courting by subtleties either. I have several women friends for whom "wanna fuck" is a perfectly normal thing to say and I do consider them ladies because they are fine human beings. I think the important thing here is that respect is a dialogue between the two parties and it requires us to be careful and pay attention to others. The idea that negotiating sex is either aggression or subterfuge is a bad anthropology text from my undergrad. There are no alphas and betas. That is simply not how women choose men, although some women may seem to. The role of the man is not always as suitor, and the role of the woman is not to decide yes or no, good lord that is limiting. Maybe there is a dance to be had for the sake of the dance. Maybe there is a bit of beer and a lot of hormones and it's to the bathroom. Maybe casual sex isn't the recipe we're after, maybe it's intimacy or human touch. Consent starts well before you wanna shag. It starts with yourself, your desires, your needs and whether or not those make sense in the present and with the people at hand. Then it goes to their state of mind, their person, their interests and reading the words or between the lines. One of the results of a very predatory hook up culture is that women say no far more often than they maybe want to and are instinctively protective because they get mobbed and it goes stale fast. Making space where women don't feel pressured or under continuous demand but can rather make choices and be open themselves might be a stepping stone to better times. The Wodaabe have a mating ceremony where the men dress in a kind of drag for the women and in which they are judged for their effort and care as suitable or not for mating and marriage. This ended the bride fights and the paying for women by richer men. We might learn from that.

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I have a friend who is good looking well built nice respectfully would not say shit if his mouth was full of it.every body really likes him but he never gets lucky.i ask the ladies he has tried to date.what's wrong.there uniform response is he is to nice.0n the other hand I am talkative really like women tell joke s keep them laughing and end up making out like a bandit.my theory is his puts them of a pedestal a they are reluctant to step off that pedestal and become primal humor works my friend.

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Hello all,Here I was on a beach all alone and I happened to see a very sexy female out there. I wanted to have sex with her then and there but couldn't ask her.. Can you please suggest me what are some polite and sexy ways to ask a lady for sex when on a beach or in different situations?Thank youBe the one guy that does not ask for sex.Be nice, ask for a lunch date, or a coffe.Be a friend she can open up to, as she does you can open up to her.Tell her your secrets but not the sleazy ones.Turning on a woman, most women is done slowly, days, weeks. Trust is truly earned not given.If you get alone and naked with her and sex is on the menu you better be a good fuck.My secret, she gets three orgasims before I get my first one....

This is solid advice all around.

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I think it would depends upon the what kinds of lady is she and if she also looking for sex with guy like you call her and ask for sex or what kinds of sex she likes. You can show her some videos as like https://analtube4u.com/3363/sexy-german-teacher-double-penetrated-in-school/if you feel she like that.It may help turn onhermood for having sex.

Show her videos just out of the blue on ... the beach. Does this work for you ever and if it does please let us know where...

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are you serious? matey, stay away from nude beaches. you dont ask. its people ljke you, who are why my wife no longer does nude beaches.

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