who here is bi or curious because the wife stopped having sex with them?
Return to DiscussionsMaybe there is an alternative before you stop having sex with your partner. I have many couples come to me for a massage both m/f and m/m and even some f/f. One sits in a chair and watches while I work on the other. I think sometimes it is important and less forbidding if the wife can "see" her husband get erect under another guy's hands. She is not burdened with satisfying him and there is no hiding and no shame. If she is comfortable with this beginning, we can take it to another level. Often when I work on the man, the female will come over suck my cock, and after it is hard, put it in her spouse's ass. and she will then go to his head and lovingly kiss him while I fuck him. When I work on the women, the men like seeing their wives or girlfriends get really wet and panting. Usually, they'll ask me, at some point, to get on the table and mount her. By the end, as she is nearing orgasm, she will summon her husband over to her and say to him something like "you have got to try his cock" and they will negotiate who will get my load. Whether you do it with a couple that you know or with a sex-positive massage therapist like me I think it is important that you explore this with your spouse in a place that is private and safe and out in the open. One of the most important things I allow people who come see to do is to fail. I won't judge them on how good a cock sucker they are or how good they fuck or how beautiful their body is. They may come and see me again and again for years or this one time on my table may be sufficient to satisfy their curiosity. I'd be happy to answer any questions people may pose about this exploration of sexuality. Let's all be sex-positive. Let's take the shame out of sex.
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Seems like a common problem among males as we age, menopause changes how women feel about sex and what their body can do. I was always Bi curious but really explored further once the sex at home ceased. I don't regret it, I feel a male knows just how to please another male. I don't ever want to lose the desire for sex and if that's the avenue for me then so be it
My sex life with my wife started going away years ago, after her hysterectomy. In the last year or two it's almost nothing. I've been laid a total of three times this year, and I haven't had a blowjob from her in over 8 years. She has straight up told me she has NO interest in sex any more, and on the rare occasion she takes pity on me, she just lays there while I get my rocks off. Relief, but not really fun.
I have always been curious, and have had a few encounters over the years, but now I'm to the point that I'm actively seeking men to play with. Before I would feel guilty as Hell for a long time, but now I don't. I've had two encounters in the last month, and I have absolutely loved them. Without the guilt it makes it so fucking much better. It's like being freed.
My sex life with my wife started going away years ago, after her hysterectomy. In the last year or two it's almost nothing. I've been laid a total of three times this year, and I haven't had a blowjob from her in over 8 years. She has straight up told me she has NO interest in sex any more, and on the rare occasion she takes pity on me, she just lays there while I get my rocks off. Relief, but not really fun.I have always been curious, and have had a few encounters over the years, but now I'm to the point that I'm actively seeking men to play with. Before I would feel guilty as Hell for a long time, but now I don't. I've had two encounters in the last month, and I have absolutely loved them. Without the guilt it makes it so fucking much better. It's like being freed.
I think everyone gets guilty or shame feelings at first or at least I remember that well. I'm glad you broke through that barrier and are embracing it. You're a sexy man who deserves to be cared for sexually and far more than rocks off only. I love you sought out guys. I often attract men in this predicament and I love helping them past it by being the appreciative respectful and sexually focused lover they need in that moment. Because I love to is why. And the best experience will be the fastest way to go past fear and shame.
Add me to this list. It has been over three years now since my wife and I have had sex. Even before, it had become so plain vanilla, almost scripted, that I found more satisfaction in masturbation. In the past two years there has been a rapidly increasing interest in exploring my bi-side. Recently I was invited to join two other married guys to their frequent encounter. That should be starting soon and I'm so ready!
There isn't anyone here who is bisexual because their wife stopped having sex with them. You guys were bisexual all along! Maybe you didn't realize it, or you suppressed it, however another person deciding to not have sex has no bearing on one's own personal sexual orientation. OWN IT!
Yes....the wife and I havent had sex for about a year now.......shes knows Im a nudist,she isnt and thinks Im weird......went to visit my first nudist resort, had a good time hanging out with like minded people, totally relaxed around others.