"Retired"?

My wife and I used to be active swingers. We had many nights out, but they were all focused on her.

Now, I could go either way, regarding sexual orientation and gender; if it feels good, do it, as far as I'm concerned. Despite this, every occasion focused entirely on her.

Well, after a few years, she decided she was done with it. One catalyst seemed to be us finally meeting a woman who was interested in joining us, before my wife cut it off.

Fast forward 15 years and she's showing mild interest, but still hasn't committed to anything and is dead-set against actively seeking others. In other words, it's lip service and she may want to keep her own eyes open again, but doubtful she'd ever let it go far.

Have any other couples, or singles, experienced this before? It feels like there's a void in our relationship that's been building for 15 years, but she won't commit to trying to fix that!

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