I need help
first off you have a sexy cock but back to the problem that i suspect we all have sometimes mine has to do with being distracted , if i'm masturbating and get distracted my cock goes limp this occurs a lot when camming here and one or two send me private chat yeah hard to chat , type and stroke. i read your profile and think i've seen your cam before , also do you watch other cams here while stroking that helps for me .
I need advice, I start trying to have some fun, I get fully erect for like a minute, then I immediately lose it. What's causing this? What can I do because it's beyond frustrating
As we age, the experience of erotic sensations is refined from "anything at all this is brand new omg omg omg" to be more selective and depending on our experiences and life paths, reliant on someone else. Porn and fantasy ultimately remain unfulfilling because there's no reality on the other side of the yearning just an empty want that cannot ever be fulfilled because it's not anything that can fulfill. It's at very best a tide over or stopgap and there's nothing wrong with it inherently but it can be empty and frustrating if it's all we have. Because it's unreal we may also need stronger and weirder scenarios as we go to get aroused to the same degree. The identical process happens with casual sex. It starts off being ideal and eventually can be totally unfulfilling. This is because in both cases there is little or no intimacy and care that leads to bonding. It's the base level need we all have and you can't feel sexy and aroused unless you feel like others have that opinion of you and that it runs deeper than just being horny for you cause penis or anus or mouth.
Our penises react to the reality behind touch... ours or someone else's and that is unchangeable and usually only becomes more evident and central as we age not the opposite. Men who get lots of attention and give it have always an easier time maintaining and getting erections. But that's just the first thing that needs to be addressed and most doctors don't care.
Second is erectile dysfunction. These three things are the biggest reason for it and the ones doctors ignore as a cause or fix for this reason: sleep apnea, inguinal hernias and muscular degradation in the core.
The first may mean you're never getting enough oxygen a day for an erection to occur and that your nighttime erection maintenance exercise your body does naturally is not happening. That means you either cannot get hard or have it for a short time. You cannot physically be hard if this is the case no matter what you do and they never tell you this. It's not your fault and knowing that is so important to fixing it.
The second has the same effect in a different way. It causes fluids to leak from inside your ribcage and thorax to the outside where they accumulate above the testicles and pubis. That swelling and pressure cramps the veins and arteries carrying blood to and from the penis or restricts it fully. No blood no hard on.
The last one feeds sleep apnea inguinal hernias and erectile dysfunction. This is the direct result of standing and even more sitting for work and for long periods. It's unnatural and that plus diet is the number one reason men get sick and the number one reason they die early and the overall by a huge margin reason there is so much widespread erectile dysfunction today. If you are in excellent sexual health with no circulation or oxygenation problems due to apnea or hernia and your abs, groin, butt and lumbars are supple and strong, you are mechanically supported on every level for the best and longest erections possible. You actually feel the truth of that and this feeling itself is a reason why erections are easier and last longer.
Feeling like you are connected to your penis as you walk, work out, sit, stand, dressed and undressed and in your dreams at night because you are not just mentally but physically too is an amazing boost to your confidence and it makes sharing it and it responding quickly and easily much more probable and habitual. The exercise regime to fix this is 20 to 30 minutes just 3 to 4 times a week. Sleep apnea will be fixed by a cpap machine and it is night and day. Inguinal hernias are repaired surgically with great success. And weight loss isn't hard. You just need to cut down on the extra calories and one item at a time. I had to for health reasons. First I cut out soda and beer (one a week allowed). Then cut ice cream and sweet consumption in half. Bread 3 times a week only. Potatoes rice and pasta 3 times. Larger lean protein servings and lots of veggies and whole fruit. No juice or wine (once a week). I cut sugar added by 50%. Snacks after 8 PM. Lost 60 lbs no gym and I don't miss anything because I have it all still. Hope this helps.
In my situation it was anxiety related. My doctor prescribed something for my anxiety issues. Now my erections are back to where it was when I was 45...
Are you on an SSRI? Anxiety can be many things and for depressive anxiety, which is solidly neurochemical in nature and which may be lifelong, or something that develops for all kinds of reasons, and affects serotonin levels specifically (oddly) can produce ED as a result of the low serotonin and be cured by higher levels or, become an issue with higher serotonin usually what an SSRI produces in the brain (I have a buddy who has this issue)... just asking as trauma or situational anxiety or some other forms are very different in their causes and effects (but can also affect libido and erectile health). Did you mention ED and anxiety comorbid or just the anxiety? Im interested because lots of doctors still will decide a man isnt seriously ill or needing treatment if he mentions ED with another ailment, which is super problematic, but I hear it all the time. If you did and he took you seriously (assuming he is a GP) then I am really impressed and glad to hear it.
I am there also. I've tried Viagra now I'm trying Cialis.The VA gave me a pump which I found that I really like to use so I bought another from Amazon. I'm not sure if I can ever get back to what I used to be.
We (me included) are often concerned with "getting back to what it used to be" but, that isn't going to happen in the broadest sense (I will never be 20 again and will never fuck like that again, but, thats not necessarily terrible), and I understand the sense of loss, and of uncertainty in the future, but... what I have learned from men who have successfully maintained and grown their sexual practice well into their 80's is...the future has new ways, different pleasures and can be no less amazing than any past time in our lives, but it takes work and dedication and information that is still outside of the mainstream because older men aren't supposed to be having a great time, according to pop culture. Both Viagra and Cialis will work, somewhat better for some, and less so for others. The cock pump is external or internal? Vacuum pumping is a really short exercise relatively speaking and it is easy to injure yourself more than heal yourself with this apparatus, although lots of men have a blast with them and I admit to sometimes seeing that whole ritual and finding it appealing. But most pumpers will not be penetrating afterwards nor are they doing it for that end. If you wanna fuck as a goal, you have to take care of all the muscles and blood flow and breathing that gives you what you need to perform which is not the penis first, but all the stuff around it, which in turn, makes erections just happen with ease and as they did before (just the abdominal muscles weakening means that the blood in your penis will not stay in because there isn't the pressure from the muscles under the veins and over the arteries to provide a much higher blood pressure locally at the base than is in the corpus cavernosum or the tissue that swells and erects the penis (those jocks of harder leather and a ring for the balls and penis are for this purpose, to increase the back pressure to maintain the blood volume in the cock). Like, the increased local pressure inside your penis cant be above the pressure at the base that is supposed to hold it in, just like in a hydraulic lift, the pressure under needs to overcome the pressure downward from mass, the pressure beneath the erection has to push that swelling back into itself with ease... and that is good blood flow, muscular integrity, high oxygenation and cardio health.
A simple experiment in which you put your hand palm down with fingers split either side of your penis and press down firmly and continuously as you masturbate after you swell to semi or more will show how pressure increases size and length of erection. But its not going to allow the full functioning of the exchange system that pumps blood in and drains it out, and that fine tuning is what allows a man to keep hard and stay hard for longer periods of time. Both cialis and viagra work by swelling the ring tissue at the base of the penis inside your body essentially holding more blood in, but if you don't have the higher pressure to feed new blood in, and the pressure behind the ring isnt also higher, it will eventually fail drugs or not, and the boner will not last long. I know this because I lived it. We grow into adulthood stroking ourselves hard and really dont think of arousal as much more than that as it is that easy for a long time, but its not that simple inside, and no one is taught what is actually happening. So when it stops working well, we think ah my dicks busted. That is usually the one thing that is actually working fine, if the rest was too. You can get atrophied corpus cavernosum but that's rare, and a multi year multi illness process and it can be reversed with the pumping and the manual stim and diet and supplement adjustments to a degree.
The injectable triple mix works because it affects three places in the system, the ring like with viagra and cialis, the vessels taking blood out, and the ones taking it in...it dilates the intake (increasing flow and pressure) and narrows the ones exiting (increasing back pressure and making outflow slower mechanically, and an extra swollen ring seal to hold in the erectile blood which stays because the outflow is fractioned down to a trickle in some cases (why a urologist is important as a consultant here), You still dont treat the underlying physical issues with the drug (the blood flow improvement is longer lasting), except, two hour boner and two hours of fucking means abdonimal workout par excellence, so as a by product yes.
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