There are a number of different definitions for love, and there’s no doubt that we can hold morethan one person in our hearts at one time. But what about romantic love, the kind of love thatinspires you to write poetry and consider spending your life with someone? Can you feel thatway about two different people?
Biology vs Society
Our biology wants us to procreate. And if you look at our cavemen brains, that procreation canonly happen when we have multiple partners. With more than one partner, the likelihood ofhaving progeny is greatly increased. But we’re smarter than biology, aren’t we?Society tells us that we should grow up, get married, and have children with that one person.That runs very much in contrast to what our tiny brains may be urging us to do. And while somepeople thrive in a monogamous relationship, there are some of us who long for something more.
When One Person Isn’t Enough
When you’re looking for “the one,†it almost seems ridiculous to think that one person can fulfilleverything on your wish list for a partner. He or she could be a great companion and friend butlacking as a lover. Do we marry for sex or companionship? For the majority of us, the clear goalis to find the complete package, but that doesn’t always work in the real world. And what if yourchosen partner did fulfill all of the desires you have; would you be bored?
According to an article in Psychology Today,an emotional dissonance is created when we love more than one person in a romantic way. Andthat may just wreak havoc on our well being. Another There’s no definitive answer as to whether or not we can love two people at one time, but manypolyamorous unions have proven that it is possible and healthy. Just because it’s not yet readilyaccepted as status quo doesn’t mean it doesn’t work. What do you think?What Do You Think?
